* I started writing this blog a month ago. I wish laziness is the reason it took me so long. But that’s not the case; I was going through a tough time and had a death in the family.
The new year started off strong, triggering a flood of emotions. In the rush to accomplish everything we had planned, we sometimes forget what truly matters and shouldn’t be put off. Still, we never expect someone to become ill or that we might not have the chance to see them again. Life circumstances are simply beyond our control or planning, even though we often believe they are not.
When I take on more than I can handle, I end up feeling that there’s never enough time. But time is relative, and so is what we can achieve in a day. In this pace that I set for myself, I didn’t I set my priorities well. An unexpected situation completely threw me off track and it led me to think.
When we are faced with life-and-death situations – especially when it involves loved ones – it shakes us to the core. It’s hard to image that a day will come when someone we love is not there anymore. The fear that this day is coming opened up space for me to think about what truly matters in life?
How do we find and feel support?
When my personal life turned into chaos, questions about support started arising. Who is in my support network? Who do I turn to when things get tough? Who is always there for me? How easy do I ask for help when I need it? Who comes to me when they need support?
With this topic in mind, I decided to organize a Women’s Circle so that I could find my answers in this safe space. What I found is quite symbolic. For me, support is a feeling of warmth. A hug from a dear person that makes me feel safe. Sometimes, it overwhelms me – which is most likely my subconscious blockage – but I’ve learned to take as much as I need in the moment… if I make myself ask for help.
I’ve also noticed that in difficult times, I isolate myself. All behind the excuse that I need this, but in reality, I want people to ask me how I am and if I need anything. During the body psychotherapy education, I noticed that this is a common theme for all of us who, as children, had to be strong. All of us who had to understand something beyond our comprehension at the time. All of us who believe we have to do everything ourselves. It’s easier for us to shift the focus from ourselves and our weaknesses and ask the other person what they need. If you recognize yourself in this, you’re not alone.
What we can do is to learn how to shift this. If we haven’t learned to ask for help and support, for whatever reason, we should practice changing that. Step by step.
During the Women’s Circle, my heart was full because the space we create is a place of support for the women who are there. I understood just how important it is for me to be a support to others. I am grateful for all the support I received from my people in the hardest moment. My dog also has a subtle way of showing me that I’m not alone when I’m feeling sad – she lays next to me back to back even though she knows she’s not allowed on the bed. It takes so little for us to feel relief.
If you need my support, don’t hesitate to reach out. You can find my email on the contact page or find me on social networks. I will organize workshops and walks in the nature very soon. Follow me if you feel that is something for you.